I had originally thought she was doing this to fund her graduate studies and nothing more. Fair enough, I though. While I may have gone a different route, like driving a Pepsi truck for 5 years, this girl used what nature have her.
Turns out, it seems that it more likely that she is the victim of some man-hating crypto dyke humanities professor (I know, is there any other kind).
Like most little girls, I was raised to believe that virginity is a sacred gift a woman should reserve for just the right man. But college taught me that this concept is just a tool to keep the status quo intact. Deflowering is historically oppressive—early European marriages began with a dowry, in which a father would sell his virginal daughter to the man whose family could offer the most agricultural wealth. Dads were basically their daughters’ pimps.Oh crikey! What is this world coming to. As the father of two daughters I cringe at the thought of my girls going to college.
When I learned this, it became apparent to me that idealized virginity is just a tool to keep women in their place. But then I realized something else: if virginity is considered that valuable, what’s to stop me from benefiting from that? It is mine, after all. And the value of my chastity is one level on which men cannot compete with me. I decided to flip the equation, and turn my virginity into something that allows me to gain power and opportunity from men. I took the ancient notion that a woman’s virginity is priceless and used it as a vehicle for capitalism.
Are you rolling your eyes? I knew this experiment would bring me condemnation. But I'm not saying every forward-thinking person has to agree with what I’m doing. You should develop your own personal belief system—that’s exactly my point! For me, valuing virginity as sacred is simply not a concept I could embrace. But valuing virginity monetarily—now that’s a concept I could definitely get behind. I no longer view the selling of sex as wrong or immoral—my time at college showed me that I had too blindly accepted such arbitrary norms. And for what it’s worth, the winning bid won’t necessarily be the highest—I get to choose.
scary. I also wonder what the world will be when my daughter heads to college. We liked Costa Rica when we vacationed there 4 years ago, not a bad idea for a fresh start and save my daughter from all this ideological mess.
ReplyDeleteNot surprising though, it is the rebellious nature that is always been typical of young venturing out from their seemingly “oppressive” childhoods and now that they have control over their lives, they go that extra mile to prove that they can do and smug enough to thumb their nose at the “status quo”. Fighting the status quo is sort of the cool rebellious thing to do at that level, because frankly…. “they get it and we don’t”….. and they are in udder amazement that the rest of the world doesn’t recognize the genius of their thoughts!!
ReplyDeleteI doubt she would have the same response if she had below average looks. In the end she would have sold herself to a complete stranger, maybe get rich, and at the end of her life, she can explain to her grand kids, that hey I’m cool I whored my virginity off, because I found a way to be a prostitute, under the guise of an “experiment”.
You know, I always thought the key to not letting this kind of thing happen is to expose your kinds to wildly different viewpoints from early on. I think that takes a lot of the “wow, this is so cool” mystique out of it. Show them through example (others) why this is bad and does not work, guide them with good values and hope they make the right decision.
ReplyDeleteSometimes I want to take my wife and girls and move to a compound in Idaho, but I remember that I grew up in Chicago and with a little discipline and attention most people can come up right wherever they are.